Music plays a pretty big part in our Second Lives. The right kind of music evokes all kinds of emotional responses in us, some good, some bad. I hope it’s mostly good feelings though. Without music, I think SL would be…..well, I can’t even imagine SL without music.
Ducknipple is one of my favourite stores in SL. My friend Aubree tp’d me to the shop once and I have loved it ever since. I love the retro 80’s/alternative look and feel of the clothing. It’s totally my style. They also have a nice selection of clothing for guys as well.
- tank/miniskirt: Ducknipple – Peel
- capris jeans: *Xplosion – Bobbes Jeans Capris (black)
- fishnet gloves: Needful Things – fishnet gloves (long)
- stilettos w/legwarmers: N-core design, Heels – Stiletto Warm Leg
- hair: Deviant Kitties – Diaz
- skin: LAQ – Tess
I got my first (and hopefully last) piece of hate mail last night. It came in the form of an offline i.m from someone in-world who apparently took offense to an opinion I expressed in this blog post. I’m not sure why i’m getting this reaction now, i posted that two months ago. Whatever the reasons, I have a hunch that the person behind this piece of hate mail is actually someone I know who used to be on my friends list and sent it to me from an alt account. I don’t have any concrete proof of that, but intuitively, I’m pretty sure that this is the same person. I can recognize that bad spelling and crappy punctuation anywhere.
There’s no sense in repeating verbatim what was said, but the hate mail was pretty much along the lines of…”u have no right to pas jugdment, u have no clue what your talking about, people in glass houses shouldn’t throw stones, u suck”. It was pretty intense and I’m shocked that anyone would take the time to respond with such hateful words to something I wrote about on my little blog. It really hurt my feelings, which I guess is the whole point of hate mail isn’t it?
Dear Anonymous Hater,
If you’re reading this, you’ve accomplished your goal. You thoroughly hurt my feelings (for about a minute) and this only reaffirms my reasons for dumping you from my friends list in the first place. I hope this makes you feel better about yourself, but I seriously doubt that will last very long.
Oh and by the way, people who live in glass houses shouldn’t send anonymous hate mail…because guess what? I can see right through it.
One more thing…
Now that i got that out of my system, moving on…
In hindsight, yes, I think I did express a pretty strong opinion about SLove and relationships, but I trust that anyone taking the time read my blog is intelligent enough to know that behind my “i’m so over it” declaration (which btw, i’m not completely over it), I was really hurting and my words had nothing to do with anyone else other than myself. I hope you all believe me when I say that I don’t go around judging anyone and their relationships in SL.
I actually almost took that post down (and all other posts related to it because 1) I felt embarrassed by my display of raw emotions and 2) because I thought it might offend some of my friends. I decided not to delete the posts after I had a heart to heart with my good friend who told me that I shouldn’t delete it because I was speaking my truth and there were probably a lot of other people out there who could relate. She also reminded me that if reading my words really bothered anyone that much, it was probably because it was hitting too close to home for them. She’s one smart cookie. I wish I could give her proper credit here, but she’s shy. You know who you are wise friend.
Anyway…I’m not gonna let this little bit of silliness put a cramp in my day. In fact, I take it as a compliment. You know what they say – you’re nobody ’til somebody hates you….er, i don’t consider this particular person enough of a “somebody” to make their “hate on” for me significant.
i noticed a lot of people coming to read my blog from Plurk last night, and since i created my account months ago but have never actually used it, i figured now is a good time to go see what this Plurk thing is all about.
you might already have a friend request from me, i’ve been stalking my favourite bloggers looking for other plurkers. hope you feel like adding me, my plurk page looks rather lonely. :))
happy day everyone.
There aren’t too many people in my life that I talk to about SL. My family knows that I “play” SL, but other than that, my SL is not really a topic that is open for discussion. It’s not because I have anything to hide about my activities in SL (err…at least not anymore…anyone who has read my blog will know what I’m talking about, but that’s just between you and me right? cough cough :P) I don’t talk about it because I want to save myself the trouble of trying to explain what exactly SL is.
Until recently, when my husband outed me while we were out to dinner one night with some friends. Actually, let me correct that – we were out to dinner with my husbands friend and his wife…i don’t really consider her my friend, she’s more like someone i tolerate, but for the purpose of this post, i’ll refer to her as a friend.
Anyway…occasionally, hubby likes to poke fun at me for my passion for playing dress-up with my avatar, which is somewhat annoying and doesn’t usually bother me, but this time he dropped his smart ass remark in front of our friends. Of course, that was followed by looks of confusion and the dreaded question “second what?”
I then proceeded to spend the next several minutes stumbling over my words trying to explain SL, what I do there and why and what the whole point of it is.
“it’s kind of like a 3D chat room where I sometimes hang out with my friends and just chat…” nervous laugh
Looks of confusion, followed by more looks of confusion
“but what’s the point of it? is it like Facebook? or is it like that game, oh what’s it called…world of warcraft?”
“ummmm…no. it’s not really a game, it’s what you make of it”
“I don’t get video games, seems like such a waste of time” looks over at me, shrugs her shoulders, “i never knew you were into video games?”
/me breaks out into a nervous sweat…
“i play Second Life because it amuses me”
Thankfully, at that moment, the waiter came by offering us a look at the dessert cart and that was all that was needed to change the subject and divert all eyes away from me. While our friends were drooling over the choice of desserts, I sent one swift kick to hubby’s leg under the table and I haven’t heard any smart remarks from him about SL since.
That was a strange evening, and while I sat there trying to enjoy my tiramisu, I listened to the husband’s banter about their latest work project, and the wife barking at her babysitter over her iphone for giving the kids chocolate at bedtime, and I thought about why I felt so embarrassed about SL. Is it really something to feel shameful about? I have a busy life and sometimes I like to indulge in a little escapism and log into SL. Is that really so bad? And when the hell did i start caring so much about what people think of me? I didn’t enjoy my dessert all that much because I was so preoccupied with all these thoughts running through my head.
Our dinner ended uneventfully, and everyone seemed to forget about my uncomfortable little moment in the hotseat. We stepped out into the unusually warm March evening and I basked aloud about how happy I was that spring arrived early this year.
Puzzled by the sudden silence, I turned around to find hubby, his friend and the wife with cigarettes in one hand, blackberries and iphones in the other, furiously checking their emails, updating their FaceBook status, and sending off their latest Tweets. I smugly thought to myself “now that must be totally different from logging in to Second Life”.
I almost said that out loud, but I decided to keep it to myself and save them the trouble of trying to understand what SL is all about. Clearly, they would have no idea.
i logged in this morning and someone passed on to me, via the FabFree group, this fabulous new Facelight 7000 v1.2, with the promise that it was the best facelight ever.
i think i might go wander around wearing this to see what kind of reaction i get. it makes a pretty strong statement me thinks. LOL
by the way, if anyone is interested, i can pass on a notecard of favourite windlight settings so that you can look your absolute best in-world…without using a facelight. just i.m me in-world and i’ll send it to you. have a great day everyone!