My new friend has been a food blogger for many years and often hosts dinner parties and “foodie” get togethers for blog fodder. Naturally, there were some of her other blogger friends in attendance. At one point, they got into a fun discussion about blogging, making friends online, and all kinds of other funny things that would only be interesting to other bloggers and internet geeks alike. It was quite entertaining and I was eager to jump into conversation with my own thoughts on blogging and making connections…but, what did I do instead? I didn’t say a thing, and I could kick myself for it now.
Why, you ask? Because if I was to identify myself as a fellow blogger, the next step would be “What do you blog about?” which of course would inevitably lead to the dreaded question “Second…what?”. And that is usually followed by confused facial expressions and awkward silence.
[insert crickets sound here]
Maybe I’m just being neurotic, but I’ve been down that road before and I would rather avoid the weirdness of having to explain Second Life to anyone who doesn’t know, and further why I blog about it. This is particularly unappealing after having just finished off our third bottle of wine and I’m feeling a little tipsy.
It’s not that my SLife is a big secret. I’ve shared here before about how and why I am transparent about my SL activities with my immediate family and the people in my life that matter. They know I have this blog which they aren’t all that interested in anyways, and honestly, that’s fine by me. But disclosing that outside my close knit circle is not something I feel totally comfortable with.
Is it just me or is there still a stigma attached to Second Life? Like, we must all be deeply troubled and unhappy in our real lives to resort to socializing in a pretend virtual world on the internet. Is that what the mass population still generally thinks? And why do I even care what they think?
The truth is, I am not unhappy in my real life. I have my challenges, but overall I have a busy and fulfilling life, and a happy family. Life is good, so I’m not really sure why I feel insecure about being more open about this blog, which I have invested so much of my time and creative energy into.
Ah well, this really isn’t that big of a deal. It’s not like I attend a lot of dinner parties or am hanging out with pro bloggers every weekend. It was just something that popped up and it kind of surprised me, that’s all.
Besides, I’ve been outed before about SL, to good friends, and even though I kept it myself that time, I ended up having the last laugh on that one.
Still, even after three plus years of being around Second Life, you would think it should get easier explaining it to others. Does it?